Take Your Power Back

I recently had to take my own advice and break off a relationship because he lied to me.  I knew if I buckled and stayed with a dishonest person I would have no right to give advice to all of you.  I must say, there was a great deal of strength in that, knowing others rely on me.  Its been 4 days and I have not even shed a tear.  There is no reason to cry over a person who was bad for you.  Rejoice in knowing you took your power back and had the balls to kick him out.  No one ever felt better for bringing the garbage back in, or letting it pile up too high.

In closing I give you this...If your man ever says to you, "I just don't know what I want".  The appropriate response is, "Well, I DO...I want a guy who knows what he wants."

Don't Be Shy

When you're in a relationship its imperative to communicate your sexual needs.  Women tend to shy away from this topic, while men are perfectly willing to tell you everything they want you to do.  Have you ever felt shy with certain guys while others make you feel free to get crazy?  Much of this has to do with chemistry.  When you know your guy is hot for you its easy to feel secure and try new things.  When its the other way around and you are really hot for HIM, you may get bashful and worry about turning him off or asking for something he isn't doing.  You deserve sexual satisfaction as much as he does.  Telling him what you like is usually a turn on for him so there's no need to be timid.  Guys love girls who love sex.  Period.  Get what you want out of the bedroom and your relationship has a much better chance.  He will love doing the things you like which will make him more attracted to you in the long run.

Sex Can Wait

Men do not fall in love over good sex.  They fall in love with intelligence and personality.  You may think you have him in your grip because he wants more sex from you.  You don't.  Its crucial not to give the sex away too fast if you haven't given him the opportunity to get to know you.  Sex for a man can be intoxicating, but soon his lustful drunkeness wears off.  When it does, there must be something left for him to be attached to.  If he hasn't developed a need for your company, he will move on to new pastures.
Give yourself a little test.  Does he know your favorite food?  Has he met any of your friends?  Has he spent time at home with you watching a movie?  Make sure he has invested into your life a little before you get undressed.  You don't want to feel stupid if he disappears after he gets what he wants.  Especially if he gets it a few times.