Every relationship has a honeymoon phase which eventually comes to an end. When the pheromones fade and our senses return, we sometimes begin to notice flaws in our partner. Shortcomings that have always been there, but were hard to decifer through the drunken infatuation we were in. This is when the "love is blind" portion ends and the bickering begins. There is no harm in taking a more realistic look at your relationship. I recommend the tried and true "Pros and Cons" list. Write down what you love about your mate, and also what is driving you nuts about him. Now, throw away the "Cons" portion and put the "Pros" somewhere you can see them often...like your desk, bathroom mirror, etc. Learn to focus on the positive. Appreciate his good qualities and they will become amplified. If the two of you are a good match, this will work 100% of the time. You will remember why you fell for him and the flaws won't matter. If you aren't a match and the cons list is haunting you from the trash can, you will know within weeks that you need to cut the cord.
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